Thursday, March 5, 2009
Blog #6
I feel that children are gifts to every parent who chooses to have them. At this point in my life I do choose not to have children because I am still in school. I am only 23 years old and I feel like I want to be a little older before i make that huge step in my life. I would rather be stable, married, and financially capable of caring for a child. I would like to see myself married before I have children because I want my children to grow up with both parents present. I currently work at a childcare facility for children with special needs and I love children dearly. I see a lot of young mothers and I see how hard it is for them. They are trying to put themselves through school, work, and take care of their children. I feel like having children is a huge responsibility and not just something that should be taken lightly. I actually feel scared when I think about the fact of having children at my age because I would be responsible for not just myself, but the life of an innocent child also. My mom was a young mother and she always expressed to me that children should come when I have accomplished all of my goals. I want my children to be well taken care of and I do not want to struggle to take care of them. I respect everyone who has children and who were young mothers. I personally do not know how I would handle becoming a mother at this time in my life. But if it happens then I will do anything and everything to take care of my child regardless of where I am in my life. I hope that when I have children, I will give them a very nurturing and loving home that will impact their lives forever.
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I agree with you, children are precious and should be taken care of. It is nice and much easier to have kids when the resources are there. Going to school, working and taking care of a child is difficult especially if you are a single mother. I also want to finish school, have a good job and be married before thinking about kids. It is good to know that you have plans and goals for the future.
ReplyDeleteSome young mothers do make good moms, but most girls are too young to have kids yet. I think it is great that you are in touch with your goals. Even though I waited until my thirties, I sometimes feel I am not ready. I think it is a surreal thing until the budnle of joy arrives. Good luck with your goals and future!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you in that it is hard to take care of kids, work and put yourself through school. However, if it happens, it is managable but very exhausting, especially for single moms. Being that you work in a childcare facility for special needs kids, you get the benefit of knowing first hand how hard it is. It may be preferable to go to school first then have a family, but life has a way of dealing its challenges. But just because you do have kids first does not mean that you can not have both, a career and kids. It is a matter of just doing it and staying focus.
ReplyDeleteYour Mom is a very smart lady! Having children under the best of circumstances still requires a great deal of sacrifice. They are wonderful and precious, but extremely time consuming. I also think it is wonderful that you would like to provide the best of circumstances for your children to come into, but be aware that life has a funny way of turning upside down on you. As a mother, I would advise any woman considering children to be prepared to do it on your own. If things work out and you don't have to, that's great, but if you prepare to do it solo and circumstances leave you to do so, you can still enjoy being a parent without the added stress of how to make ends meet.
ReplyDeleteI commend you for your choices to be fully prepared for children. It is unfortunate that not enough woman not only make that choice but take the steps to ensure that those choices are followed. The enormous benefits that children can get from having two loving and supportive parents that are prepared to have a family are almost infinite but I have a lot of respect for single woman who do whatever needs to be done to care for their children to the best of their abilities when they have to. You ended your blog with "but if it happens" so my only question to you is if you feel so strongly about choices you make to insure the happiness and well being of your children, are you taking the proper precautions to ensure your wishes and choices stay true?
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